How to get comfortable with self-pleasure

Connection can show up in many forms: a hug from a friend, a fleeting moment of closeness, or intimacy with a partner. Touch is deeply rooted in our biology, helping release hormones like oxytocin that support stress regulation and emotional well-being. While connection with others is meaningful, you’re also fully capable of creating comfort on your own. Solo pleasure can be an opportunity to better understand what feels good to you and even deepen intimacy with a partner. Here are a few ways to get started.

1. Accept yourself.  You are beautiful. You are worthy. And you are all that you need.
2. Get in the mood.  Think about what gives you desire and makes you feel sensual. Whether it’s a book or a bath, take time to create your desired mood.
3. Take your time. Be aware of your needs and care for them. If you’ve been pleasuring yourself for some time, there may be some room to change it up. If you’re new to self-pleasure, understand it may take time to know what will work for you.
4. Use your resources. If you like candles or music, or are into stories from Dipsea, use your resources to change it up.  
5. Experiment with tools. Before breaking the bank, invest modestly to see what you like. We like Smile Makers for vibrators, warming lube, and other instruments.