The Myth of Having It All (And What We’re Choosing Instead)

The Myth of Having It All (And What We’re Choosing Instead)

You’ve seen the headlines.
“Balance it all.”
“Have it all.”
“Do it all—without burning out.”

It sounds empowering… until you try to actually live it.

And what you end up with isn’t freedom—it’s pressure.
To be fully present at work.
And fully present at home.
To prioritize self-care and everyone else’s needs.
To achieve more, give more, do more—without ever looking tired.

So here’s the question no one asks:
Do you even want it all?

The quiet rebellion of choosing less

Most Rae women we know are in some kind of transition.
Career shifts. Relationship rethinks. Health resets. Identity evolutions.

And somewhere along the way, we realized:
The goal isn’t to “have it all.”
It’s to have what matters—and to have enough of it to actually enjoy.

Having it all often means having no room to feel any of it.

Three reclaims that feel better than “balance”

1. Trade multitasking for moment choosing.
Balance isn’t equal time—it’s intentional time. When you’re with your kid, be with them. When you’re in work mode, go deep. Tiny moments of presence matter more than a calendar full of chaos.

2. Let your “no” be part of your wellness plan.
Every “yes” costs energy. And every “no” protects it.
Saying no doesn’t make you unavailable. It makes you sustainable.

3. Redefine success in seasons.
There are seasons to sprint and seasons to recover. Seasons to go big and seasons to go quiet. If your definition of “having it all” doesn’t flex with your season, it’s not built for real life.

At Rae, we’ll never sell you the idea that a supplement alone can solve the overwhelm. But we will support you with tools that lighten the load—nutritionally, hormonally, and emotionally.

Start with what your body is asking for right now.
Let that be enough.
Because “all” is a moving target—and your worth was never tied to how much you carry.

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